You can't make peace if you only talk to your friends

It has long surprised me that so many people who need to work with others will not talk to those whom they dislike or distrust. Whether it is two nations with common borders, or two managers who work on the same team, the only effective way to make the relationship work is to talk extensively with those whom we dislike and distrust. To refuse to talk to those whom we regard as enemies and competitors is self-destructive. This does not mean that we have to acquiesce when we do not want to, but simply talking and discussing the issues is the only way to resolve them.